Unable to find the one…. Lost confidence but insecurities building up

I’m a 25yo guy, employed (stable and secured job), born in a not too poor or too rich family, currently pursuing a master’s degree and traumatized by my previous relationship(s) (got cheated on 3 times and got played/used for 2 times). It has really made me feel very very insecure. Lately I have been in and out of talking stages from one to another, either I bailed out because I felt insecure about my current state or they decided to ghost me. I’m really insecure about my appearance (I don’t know how girls sees me), and my job (I don’t know if she will love me for me or for the position). On the other hand, I’m not sure whether I’m good enough for anybody even If I have a stable job but I don’t have that much time free-time including strict family rules.. I wanna build up confidence and remove my insecurities but I don’t know how to… Someone please help…

Feeling bottled up?

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?

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